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Stopped Making Love
We don't make love
I receive numerous questions and concerns from men whose wives or partners have lost interest in lovemaking. The frequency of actual intercourse that the couple engages in ranges from once or twice a month to rarely or never. This behavior seems to be drastically different (according to the man) from earlier in the relationship and has developed over time. Some men believe that stress, childcare, work and other issues interfere with their partner's inability to respond. They say that she complains of being tired or fatigued.
It is so important for women to understand that sexual health is as important as mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health. Any decrease in arousal or satisfaction should be viewed as a symptom of some underlying disorder. Women, like men, can (and should) stay sexually active way into the latter years of life.
The sexual energy keeps the body/mind youthful and invigorated. This energy was originally intended to help us gain immortality...and in the realm of the Divine, that purpose has not changed. (We have simply forgotten how to tap into this endless reservoir of potency.)
Women and men who remain sexually active look and feel younger than their counterparts who are not. They also enjoy a more active lifestyle and experience greater levels of self-confidence and esteem.
ANOTHER REASON WOMEN LOSE INTEREST IS SEX IS BECAUSE OF UNFULLFILMENT AND BOREDOM. Men need to reject the culturally accepted practice that suggests that once ejaculation has occurred for him, sex is over. If your woman has been left unsatisfied and unfulfilled, she will eventually become programmed to accept this foolish practice, as well. Her mind and body, however, will send signals of boredom, fatigue or disinterest. Somatic symptoms can be triggered because she has learned that her needs and desires will not be fulfilled. Thus, a convenient "headache" will spare her the disappointment.
Other ways women cope with lack of fulfillment in sex is to have sex out of "obligation". This, too, is a foolish cultural practice that should be discontinued. In the absence of true and intense passionate energy, lovemaking becomes a void that only depletes the vital centers of the body. Understanding and practicing Sacred Sex techniques will bring a couple to a state of closeness and completeness beyond comprehension.
WHERE TO GET HELP
Female sexual health is becoming a rapidly recognized area of specialty amongst the medical and psychological communities. (Prior to, most research and treatment focused on the sexual health of men.) The power to change or enhance sexual behavior should always remain the woman's choice. Below are some resources for women who wish to change or optimize their sexual well-being:
Newshe.com (Network for Excellence in Women’s Sexual Health)
Visit the website created by Laura Berman, Ph.D. and Jennifer Berman, M.D. The site provides resources for women and healthcare professionals dealing with sexual function problems such as lack of desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm and pain.
MayoClinic.com — Women’s Health Center
Visit the Women’s Health Center at MayoClinic.com to find information about women’s health issues including Female Sexual Dysfunction.
Sexual Health Network
The Sexual Health Network is dedicated to providing easy access to sexuality information, education, mutual support, counseling, therapy, healthcare, products and other resources for people with disabilities, illness, or natural changes throughout the lifecycle and those who love them or care for them.
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