Female Orgasm

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I have no problem bringing her to orgasm orally, but often it's a blue moon when I bring her to orgasm when we make love. She says she has rarely ever had an orgasm with a man inside her -- in fact she says over her lifetime she has rarely had orgasms. I feel quite inadequate - not being able to give my soon-to-be-wife what she so truly deserves. She says she's quite satisfied and quite happy sexually -- personally I don't think so -- and if she is, doesn't she deserve more? Is it too "manly" of me to want to give her all her heart and spirit desires? Is it me? Is it her? Is it us? What can I/we do? Please help!</I></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Shanti's Response:</B></I></div> <div> <B>Let me try to highlight some important factors about female orgasm:</B></div> <div> <B>Only 35% of women who have ever been surveyed report that they have </B><I>consistently</I><B> achieved orgasm during intercourse;</B></div> <div> <B>Of those that do experience orgasm, fewer experience a full vaginal orgasm......most experience a clitoral orgasm.</B></div> <div> <B>Please keep in mind that women's sexual health has only recently began to receive the focus it deserves. Specialists, like Drs. Jennifer Laura Berman, founders of </B><B><U>Newshe.com</U></B><B> </B><B>(Network for Excellence in Women’s Sexual Health), are making superior progress in helping women understand their unique sexual needs.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>These are some suggestions that may help you and your partner:</B></div> <div> <B>The woman must be comfortable to share with her partner the things that turn her on. It is extremely important for a woman to be in a high state of arousal before intercourse. This means that her partner and she should engage in enough foreplay that the physical signs of arousal are evident:</B></div> <bR> <div> <U>Signs of Female Sexual Arousal</U></div> <div> <I>genital lips will swell a bit and might spread open. Her clitoris engorges, enlarges, and firms. The clitoris becomes exquisitely sensitive to touch. The muscles around the entrance to her vaginal will relax and the slippery lubricant will seep out from its opening...her nipples may become erect and firm; her breathing will change; she may get a flush on her cheeks or breasts. </I></div> <bR> <div> <B>If she is experiencing orgasm orally, she can learn to have orgasms while you are inside of her. You will need to be able to </B><U>holdback</U><B> from ejaculating in order to help her with her experimentation. Go to my website and use the exercises for men if you are not familiar with this technique.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Since most women experience clitoral orgasms verses vaginal orgasms, it is important to ensure that the lingam or some part of the body (pelvic area) is stimulating the clit. You may need to experiment with different positions. Try placing a pillow under her hips in missionary style or let her be on top of you with her legs closed as she grinds your body. For variation, try sliding up and down the body instead of thrusting. If you are familiar with the scissor-style, use this position to manually massage the clit as you thrust inside of her.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Also experiment with other ways to help her stay present during lovemaking: keep a soft light on and have her focus on her sensations while you are inside of her. Talk softly to her and ask her to give you feedback on what she is feeling as you move a certain way or change speed or position. Have her gaze into your eyes as you move inside of her body...this is another simple way to get her to focus on what is happening in the moment, which can enhance her sense of pleasure.</B></div> <div> <B>Experiment with your pace......move slowly and rhythmically at times; other times go fast and deep. Remember to position your body so that you are stimulating her clitoris.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Also, a </B><I>yoni massage</I><B> before and during lovemaking will help keep her vaginal muscles relaxed.</B></div> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>