After Sex Feeling

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My concern is that we do not have any type of intimacy before of during sex. He prefers to pull out and ejaculate on me, and this extra pulling away at the end makes me feel rejected and cheap. I have expressed how this bothers me, but he continues to do this. We have recently gone for long periods between encounters. Please help, we are currently not seeing each other for a time to calm down after a heated argument about this. Thank you.</I></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Shanti's Response:</B></I></div> <div> <B>It is a good sign that you were friend for two years. This means that you both should be willing to read this email together and rely on your friendship to help you work through your problem.</B></div> <div> <B>Intimacy is an experience between two human beings which is much deeper than sex alone. This is what you would see when observing people in an intimate relationship:</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>1). Acting in reliable and dependable ways that build and maintain trust; </B></div> <div> <B>2). Expressions of open and honest communication (which includes giving and receiving constructive feedback as well as praise);</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>3). Genuine concern for the other's well-being, demonstrated in behaviors which support the emotional and spiritual growth of the other.</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>5). Willingness to share resources, time and energy for the mutual support of the relationship;</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>6). Commitment to work through challenges and difficult times by accepting responsibility as a co-creator of the relationship;</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>7). Acceptance of the other's weaknesses and vulnerabilities;</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>8). Acceptance of one's own weaknesses and vulnerabilities;</B><B> </B></div> <div> <B>9). Respecting the other as a mirror of the Divine Self.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>If you and your boyfriend are not able to work towards building this kind of intimacy in your relationship, then you are not going to have an intimate relationship -- your going to have a problematic relationship. He should be listening to your concerns and negotiating ways to help both of you feel cherished during lovemaking. This is what two people do when they are enjoying intimate lovemaking -- they "cherish" one another. They find countless ways to give pleasure to their partner. And in doing so, each experiences pleasure beyond their highest dreams. You should be exploring with him ways that make him feel loved and cherished as well. Find out why he has a need to behave in this manner towards you. Perhaps he has a sexual fear that he cannot express. Or perhaps he is more concerned about his own needs than he is yours.</B></div> <div> <B>You have more work to do with each other. Best wishes.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>